Thursday, December 27

Escaping Your Past

Alhamdulillah. I started this entry with alhamdulillah because really we owe Allah plentiful, in fact everything we have today, are courtesy from Him, be it we are dealing with difficulties or we are enjoying our success after much hard works and pengorbanan we did.

What we are today are pretty much what we did yesterday, what we will be tomorrow is what we're doing at this very moment. This resort to the fact that we are related to our past. Now, not everyone ada a good track record in their life, just take a look at our posts in Facebook and Twitter, and try classifying them to the two; one that can bring you closer to jannah, and one that does nothing (nothing meaning buang masa and buang masa is rugi and rugi is not safe from hellfire).

Some of us ada yang dulu pernah bercouple and we once are proud of it, not knowing how wrong it is (those yang tengah dalam couple ni maybe tak rasa yet) but the kegelisahan and keresahan yang kita lalui hari-hari tu (although we are happy when being with him/her, kadang-kadang, banyak masa bergaduh je) are kind of indications that we're not doing the right thing.

Allah said, "only in remembering Him that we attain peace." If we are doing things yang against His will, memang we'll never attain serenity in our life.

Kebahagiaan yang plastik? Yes of course, macam those people yg try to escape from their problems by drinking and clubbing, do they look happy enjoying themselves at that moment? Yes they certainly do, but berapa lama can it last, a night at most. Pagi esok tu they are filled, yet again, with bertubi-tubi masalah.

Or those yang go and watch movies at times of stresss. or shopping, or sleeping, terus menerus tidur sebab tak nak fikir masalah hidup dia. Diorang maybe tak perasan yang diorang tengah cuba escape from the problems or tests yang they are dealing with. People call it escapism. I call it, cuba menjadi pelarian.

Serius hidup ini memang akan penuh dengan masalah, of course it is, or else it wont be called life. Life is indeed nothing but a test kan? Try masa hari peperiksaan, masuk dewan peperiksaan tanpa ada kertas periksa/kertas soalan, tak ke pelik? So maybe we freak out kadang-kadang tu when we are being thrown at problems after problems yang we saw no way out and it seemed never-ending. Need not to worry as everyone is facing the same challenges as you are facing, cuma lain-lain cara and bentuk je.

Allah cakap in His love letters, "yang menjadikan hidup dan mati untuk mengetest sapa di antara kamu yang terbaik amalannya."

Tell you what, I used to think that, masa kecik-kecik la, "why laaa this problem is happening to me?" Kan best jadi that guy, or jadi orang yg besar, tengok happy je, takde masalah pun. It's really a matter of faith in my opinion. In the end it's a question of how strong is your faith, your penggantungan dekat Allah.

Past is past and we have no chance whatsoever to change it. Orang kata, "semalam itu benda yang paling jauh dari kita, walaupun ianya semalam." Now what matters are what do we do with it.

Seorang pendosa yang hebat, yang berbuat banyak maksiat, peluangnya sebenarnya sangat besar untuk ke syurga, ia cuma perlukan taubat yang hebat. Macam cerita lelaki yang bunuh 99 orang. (Kalau tak tau, google.)

We can always turn on new leaf, no matter how dirty it is, Allah can easily wipe it out, macam bila kita terlupa save lepas dah tulis panjang2, or dah type message panjang2, tak terhantar, or tertekan benda lain, zuppp padam semua, jadi kertas putih/blank page balik. (oh serius tension kan camtu? but in life ni, it's possible when Allah is with us.)

Now let's all start a new day, being aware that we are prone to making mistakes, but that's okay as long as we're aware of it, and let's all be humble knowing that we can never escape from sinning, and tiap tiap hari berdoa Allah ampunkan kita for when we sin, it's not Allah yang kita sakiti rather it's ourself.

Hint: Allah turun ke langit bumi tiap-tiap malam tahu tak? Masa sepertiga terakhir malam cari siapa yang mohon keampunanNya. Time-time orang tidur nyenyak, kita sacrifice sikit bangun and duduk atas tikar menghadap Dia dengan rasa penuh humble dan berdosa, kita mintak, "Ya Allah, sungguh aku dah menzalimi diriku ini, kalau Kau tak ampuni aku, pastilah aku tergolong golongan yang merugi."

Titis air satu dua (bakul). Biar ia jadi saksi penghalang api neraka dari membakar diri kita.

And that my friend, that's how you truly escape from your past. Wallahua'alam.

Wednesday, December 26

Tips Mencari Calon #1

Antara tips kebahagiaan dlm rumahtangga nanti dalam bab mencari calon isteri bagi si lelaki ialah,

pastikan senyuman bakal isteri anda mampu mencairkan anda.

Nanti bila kita pulang penat dan stress dari kerja, dijemput oleh mama kpd anak2 kita dekat pintu dgn senyumannya, terus relieve stressesssss tu. Tu yg org arab dok kata and dalam quran/doa,

"Rabbana hablana minazwajina wazurriyyatina 'qurrota a'ayun'.."

Tuhan kami kurniakanlah dari isteri2 kami dan zuriyat kami 'qurrota a'ayun'.

Qurrota a'ayun ni something yg soothes the eye, yg menyenangkan mata. Kalau dekat arab dulu, bila diorg balik dari padang pasir, dgn pasir berterbangan, dengan hangat bahangnya, when they reach home, their wives and children were their qurrota a'ayun, if they were lah. If masing2 perangai teruk, tak jadi lah kan?

Sbb tu kite doa macamtu hari2, sebab hidup ni, as we grow older, it'll be tougher.

Kita rasa time spm dlu serius paling susah dah, siang malam struggle, tapi bila masuk matrik, rupanya spm tu kacang je. Matrik laaaagi susah. Then bila masuk Uni, ya Allah T_T menangis2 kadang tu kan nak siapkan assignments, being an archi students, rasa course kita paling susah dah, but then when u step out in the working world, kalau boleh hari2 nak nangis because its even tougher, but ni belum ada wife lagi. Then ada anak 1. Pastu 2 anak. 3 anak. Bukan setakat belanja diorang je kena pk but also their upbringing, their education etc. And when we grow older macam mak2 ayah kita, lagi pening, naak masuk skolah menengah uniform baru beratuih2 ringgit tiap2 taun, nak masuk kolej lagi, nak make sure masa depan kita, kita boleh survive bile depa takdak dah, memang pening, lagi bila sampai bab nak kawinkan kita, apatah lagi kalau anak tu jenis yg liaq sikit, Allah, mana lah nak carikan suami utk depa ni, hat laki yg srupa baloq liat tu, mangkit koi 12 tghari tiap2 hari, tak smayang subuh. Lagi la pusing kpala mak ayah. Mak ayah ada maruah air muka jgk nak ken jaga. Kadang2 mak ayah bukan tak mau letak hantaran murah tapi kos barang dh naik n depa pun tak brapa nak ada duit 1st time nak buat kenduri kawin anak sulong ni, nak impress family besan, nak2 family tu family doktot family professor, kecik tapak tangan ni ha, kadang2 kita kena pikiaq dgn duduk dalam kasut mak ayah kita jugak. Then dah lepaih kawin cucu cicit dh dok ada 4 5 orang, masing2 1st time jaga anak sniri, mak pak jugak hat jenuh turun jagakan cucu, risau tgk jaga tak betui, etc2 sungguh bila kita makinnn tua, makin susah hidup wpun org nampak org yg pencen ni relaxxxx je, kalau ada kawan takpa, kalau kawan smua dah 'pi' tu? Dok mlangut langit kat tangga rumah, anak2 pulak dok kelumpo entah bila nak balik mai mlawat. Bila raya, mak dok buat pulon excited skit, hampa marah, "ish mak behave skit".

Padanlah muka tok nenek kita palingg beseri bila cucu2 dia balik kg.

So, panjang super bebel tadi. Pointnya makin tua hidup makin susah, n makin susah, kita kena ada 'org' utk menyenangkan kita, tak lain tak bukan, pasangan sehidup semati sesyurga kita.

Dan sebab hari2 kita akan tgk muka dia, carilah yg menyenangkan hati kita. Dan sungguh cantik itu subjektif.

Ustaz Alias cite, ade sorang student hensem macho tegap beragama ni pilih seorang ukht yg biasa dari segi rupanya, ustaz alias tanye lebih kurang,

"Dia ni? Banyak lagi yg sesuai dgn nta."

"Ish malu la ustaz nak bagitau,"

"La bagitau je la"

"Gigi dia ustaz."

"GIGI?"

"Bila dia senyum ustaz, gigi dia cantik sgt ustaz."

So, tak perlulah berusaha keras sgt nak melawa memekap dress up itu ini sbb yg natural tu yg kami (or at least saye) cari. U r already beautiful without those stuffs.

(Macamana nak end kan post ni hrmm)

So carilah sape2 yg awok suka agamanya (bukan ilmu agamanya) dan yg menyenangkan hati bila awok pandang dia.

Rasulullah sniri suruh sorang sahabat tu pi tengok calon istri dia.

Tapi jangan tengok lebih2 pulak! Hehe.

Selamat mencari jodoh yg dah ditakdirkan utk anda. :)